I got married at 20 years old and I know that isn’t the youngest to be married but I believe that out of our graduations class there was only a couple of us that got married pretty early.I was living at a boarding school the last two years of high school and after that I moved back home while going to college. During that time, it was tough trying to navigate the world and even after getting married I was still figuring things out.
If you are thinking that you would want to get married in you early 20’s but are not sure if it is worth it, I written out a couple things that I have benefited from being married.
Figure things out!
Since I lived at a boarding school and then living at home before getting married, I felt that I wasn’t able to figure myself out as much as I needed to. It seem that for me I couldn’t branch out and figure out what I liked in life. When I got married to my husband, I was able to feel more expressive of what I liked and didn’t like. I felt more comfortable to be more open about what I thought on things and just being myself.
I might had some responsibilities; making sure I got to school and work on time, had enough money for gas and have my homework done. I didn’t pay for my phone or insurance, and I didn’t have enough on my plate that made it feel like I was adult. When you live at home even though you are an adult, there is a different atmosphere living with your parents that don’t make you feel like you adults. I just felt like an Adult Child.
It automatically felt that I was an adult, that I was able to make more decisions as one and didn’t feel like I needed to prove that I was one.
Much Needed Support
With my anxiety my family didn’t understand, my husband on the other hand was able to help me by either listening to me or giving me much needed hugs. He let me talk as much as I need to so I am not always holding things in and erupt on anyone.
As a married couple we are always with each other and able to understand one another. When one of us needs much support and listening ear we can.
My husband and I are able to make decisions that are needed to be made for our family. I find that because I am not on my own I am not the only person that bares the burdens when it comes to big decisions. My husband as the head of the house bares the major burden of making the final say, but before we get to final say we both put in our input so we work as a team.
On my own, I probably would have found out what I like and don’t like but I also believe that I would have been settled in my own ways. We were able to adapt and adjust to each other and figure it out together on how we liked to do things. I feel that since we weren’t settled in our own ways that fights and disagreements are rare.
Its easier to do…
I found that when we got married, we were able to do things a lot easier. Since we were living together, no body had to travel to far to see one another. Commute was long for me and to meet up and go on a date always made it a very long night, now that we don’t have that, date nights are nicer to go on.
When you have a conversation over the phone or text it seems that something gets lost in translation, so being in person and with that person all the time communication is easier.
No More Searching
Being married means that I am no longer searching for someone since I have my Mr. Right! No disappointing dates or wasted time.
We had children right away in our marriage. The fact that I am younger, I was able to bounce back pretty fast and also do adapt a little bit easier to motherhood. I also didn’t have a career which I would have if I waited on having children I feel would have made somethings harder for me.
These are a lot of benefits, each person will find different things out of marriage to have both the benefits and negatives. I try to remember benefit(positives) of being married and enjoy that. If you are married what was one benefit of being married?
Young Country Mama